You are not alone......
The Beginning....

No one ever has to survive feeling alone.....

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Hello! I made this page because I am a 2 time survivor of rape and I know how hard it was to deal and face what had happened. I'm hoping that I can help other SURVIVORS to see that though you may feel alone you never are. I spent two years afraid to share how I felt and allowing myself to believe it was my fault. That I had done something wrong allowing it to happen. With the help of a good friend I saw that the sooner I faced my pain the sooner I could begin to cope with the pain in my heart. He got me to wake up and see that hiding from it was only hurtin me more.
My first rape was by a close friend.... He took my innocence.
The second occured 1yr and 45days after the first.

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For now I'm using this page for links to web sites that helped me and I hope that they can help someone else......

A page of Healing...

Rainn College Rape Stats

Understanding & Surviving Rape

This page is written by a survivor and helped me out alot.....

A Few Facts.....

  • A woman has a 4 times greater chance of being raped by someone she knows than by a stranger (I Never Called it Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape. Robin Warshaw. New York, Harper and Row Publishers, 1988).
  • Victimization rates for sexual assault are 12.9 per 1,000 women age 16-24 and 9.0 per 1,000 for all other age groups combined (Criminal Victimization in the United States, Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1993).
  • The risk of rape is four times higher for women aged 16 to 24, the prime dating age (Warshaw, 1988).
  • Young women between the ages of 14 and 17 represent an estimated 38% of those victimized by date rape (Warshaw, 1988).
  • 75% of men and 55% of women involved in acquaintance rapes reported using alcohol or other drugs prior to the incident (Warshaw, 1988).
  • In a study of 769 male students, grades 7-12 in rural Wisconsin, 52% reported engaging in sexually aggressive behavior. 24% engaged in the unwanted sexual touch of another teen; 15% engaged in sexual coercion (such as lying) to initiate sexual activity; 14% engaged in assaultive behavior (use of physical force, threats of physical force, or using alcohol to gain sexual activity) (Adolescent Male Sexual Aggression: Incidents and Correlates, Donell Marie Kerns, Ph.D., thesis, UW-Madison, 1994).
  • Over 50% of high school boys and 42% of high school girls believe that there are times when it is "acceptable for a male to hold a female down and physically force her to engage in intercourse." (Warshaw, 1988).
  • A 1992 Washington State study of 535 teen mothers revealed that the first pregnancies of 62% of the participants were preceded by experiences of molestation, rape, or attempted rape. The mean age of their offenders was 27.4 years. ("Sexual Abuse as a Factor in Adolescent Pregnancy & Child Maltreatment," Family Planning Perspectives, 24:4, Jan./Feb., 1992).
  • 7% of 18-22 year olds have experienced at least one episode of nonvoluntary sexual intercourse. Women were more likely than men to report having had such an experience, with just under half of all nonvoluntary experiences among women occurring before the age of 14 ("Nonvoluntary Sexual Activity Among Adolescents," Kristin Anderson Moore, et al., Family Planning Perspectives, 16:21, May/June, 1989).
  • The National Women's Survey of 714 adult women found that 32.2% had experienced forcible rape between the ages of 11-17. (Rape In America: A Report to the Nation on Rape, National Victim Center & Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center, 1992).
  • 78% of state prison inmates convicted of sexual assault had abused a child under 18. 40% of state prison inmates convicted of rape had raped a child under 18. (Bureau of Justice Statistics, March, 1996).

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